Don't Touch My Hair. What Is Your View On This?

If I were to say "don't touch my hair" most people would automatically think of the new Solange single from her new album, "A Seat at the Table" (shout out to my girl Solange, that album is fire!). However the subject of who is eligible to touch our hair has been a much debated topic since...well forever.

Some people argue that afro hair is something that should be normalized. After all, it is our hair and it's growing directly from our heads - it doesn't really get much more natural than that. For some, even though it is beautiful and can be sculpted into a piece of art; the afro is not a spectacle to be touched.

Admittedly, caring for our hair takes time and patience. There is nothing worse than spending 15 minutes treating and styling your hair perfectly, only for it to get messed up by someone sticking their fingers in it. This is one reason why Black women do not like it when people touch our hair.

Many of my friends from other races have the same reply when I'd tell them not to touch my hair: "I can't help it!" because it's soft and fluffy, and different. It is difficult to explain especially to people of other races why we are so protective of our hair, and why the unpermitted squashing and pulling of our hair can be irritating. Perhaps, it's just better if people stick to a simple rule: If you love my hair, love it from afar - but don't touch it.

On the other hand most people would agree that when people touch their hair it's never from a place of bad intention. Instead it stems from a place of fascination and curiosity. Our hair goes straight when we perm it, shrinks but when we pull it out it is long, and can defy gravity. Thus, it is understandable why others are fascinated by it. But should the number one rule still apply?

One might argue that perhaps the only way to normalize afro hair in modern society is to explain it to people. Rewind back to 2015. Last year there was a couple of public demonstrations where a couple of women stood in the street with signs saying, "You CAN touch my hair." This was to educate other people about Afro-Caribbean hair, but how much did they really learn? Should we really have to go through the effort only to have a basic rule put it place in our society? Don't touch me or my hair unless I say so.

What's your opinion? Who can touch your hair? Is it no big deal? Is it a very big deal? Let us know in the comments below and thanks for reading! Share and follow us on Facebook. Also join our new support group The Curlhood Circle to mingle with other naturals across the globe


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